Miniskirts, Ripped Jeans, and short shorts. Sleeveless, spaghetti straps and crop tops. These are the types of clothes that most likely to worn by the females of today’s society. They are now enough of those long skirts, simple pants and tees. But who would have thought that these female types of clothing will be the one to blame of sexual harassments that worst may lead to rape?
We can’t change the fact that the type of clothes that are now trend on girls these days are very fashionable and quite attractive not just for the same sex but also to the boys. Boys find it very attractive when the girls shows their S-line, their cleavage and bellies that can lead for men of not controlling their sexual drives and may lead of sexual harassments to the girls. And after that, if they’ve been caught, they’ll blame the victim. Yes everyone, victim blaming. Want to know how? They are saying that they just do that because of how that girl dress. They didn’t control their sexual drives because of how that girl dress? turns them on! And another thing, they say girls who wears shorts clothes want “it.” When did the clothes became the consent?!
“I know you want it,” “You know that you want it.” It was painful on how people blaming the victims just because girls wear short clothes so they assumed that they want it. They were mistakenly accuse of wanting it. Gosh, who is the girl who want to be molested?! Who?! No one right?
It’s painful when the society always telling girls what should do… what should wear. That they shouldn’t wear this one because this looks undecent and blah blah. Is it the girl’s fault of wanting to be beautiful and attractive? It isn’t their fault. And it will never be! Y’all we shouldn’t blame how the girls dress because it isn’t the reason why they experience sexual harassments. Wanna know why? Because it should be the boys controlling their sexual drives!
At the very start, if the boy really has something to do with the girl, he wouldn’t mind what that girl is wearing. Yes, it may added but it will never be the reason. Now let’s go on to the situational thing so everyone will understand what I want to imply.
If they always insisting that it is because of how the girl dress then it would be the same as; if a man is not wearing any helmet or head gear then it gaves permission to anyone to hit him because he’s asking for it? Is it that?
Also, Maria Clara who is a character in Jose Rizal’s Noli Me Tangere experienced sexual harrasment by Padre Salvi. Let me remind you, people. Maria Clara is a character in a novel which the setting is the past, wherein women’s clothes are long skirts. But still, she experiencd sexual harassment. Besides there are lot of cases that even young childrens experienced sexual harrasments. So in the first place, again, it is not how the girls dress. It is the boys who needs to control their sexual drives.
In conclusion, what I always emphasize is we shouldn’t blame how the girl dress when they experienced and experiencing sexual harassment. Being catcalled, touched in their private parts is never a girl’s fault. We should change the mind sets of those uncultured people who keep talking, pressuring girls of what they should, what shouldn’t wear, what should do and what they should not do. That they should be prim and proper because that is how the girl shold act. You know people, stop stopping a girl to be herself. Stop stopping them to do what they want to do. Stop stopping them to enjoy life but instead change those uncultured people’s mindsets. Make boys control their sexual drives. Educate them. That is the only way to stop all these sexual harrassment. And if the mindsets already changed, boys can control their sexual drives and we are all educates then we cam all live in a place where is sexual harassment-free and we could live in harmony.
And again, 21st century female fashion style, shouldn’t be blamed. Because how the girl dress will never justify a molester/rapist’s behavior. And woman clothing will never be the consent.
Sexual harassment is a bullying behavior, not a compliment… NOT A WOMAN’S FAULT!